Woman Torn About Reporting Suspicions Her Neighbor Is Having an Affair

A woman thinks her neighbor is having an affair and is torn about sharing her suspicions.

In a post on the popular U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman shared that she lives next door to a couple with the woman in her 30s and the man in his 40s.

“Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work – one week a month, he leaves early evening and works into the following day,” the woman wrote.

In recent months, the woman and her partner have noticed that “a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one),” she continued.

The woman’s neighbor doesn’t drive, and the car picks her up around 6:30/7 p.m. and doesn’t “return until closer to midnight – the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.”

As the nights have gotten lighter, the woman and her partner have noticed that the wife’s appearance has gotten flashier.

“She is always ‘done up’ in makeup and wearing flattering outfits – tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH [dear husband] was out the front and he said there was an overbearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home,” the woman detailed.

“She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her – again the same car, and her all dressed up,” she continued.

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The woman and her partner are now convinced the wife is up to no good.

“We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working late,” she wrote. “I feel like morally, I should say something – but I don’t want to put my foot in it. ”

Curious for opinions, she asked, “Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?”

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Responses to the post were more firm in their judgment about her sleuthing.

“Mind your own business,” one user bluntly put it. 

“You have no idea what’s going on, and it’s none of your business. I’d leave well alone,” another wrote.

Others offered scenarios where the meetups could be innocent, such as the neighbor could be with a coworker or brother. In an update, the poster felt justified in wanting to share her suspicions.

“Because our neighbor is a very nice man and if I was in his position, I’d want to know?” she wrote. “Heck, they could be trying for a baby for all I know, and I’d potentially save him from the mess that would bring.”