Woman Is ‘Livid’ After Her Husband ‘Got Absolutely off His Face’ at His Dad’s Funeral

A wife is livid over how her husband chose to express his grief following the death of his father.

The woman admitted that her post was “a bit of a rant” as she explained on Mumsnet that her husband’s father, whom he wasn’t that close to, died last week. She said her husband has always thought his older brother was the “favorite child,” and throughout the years, it’s been a “sore point” that he mostly keeps to himself.

However, the funeral for her father-in-law brought the bad feelings to the surface and her husband told everyone off.

He “got absolutely off his face. Started telling anyone who’d stand still long enough that his dad never loved him, that his brother got everything growing up and he got nothing,” the wife wrote, adding he “got louder and louder, ended up having a go at his brother — full on threatening him in front of everyone. Was properly heated, had to be pulled away.”

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The scene left most of the people at the funeral overwhelmed.

“Whole thing was just awful. His mum was trying not to cry, people were whispering,” the wife recalled. “I wanted the ground to swallow me.”

Despite airing out his grievances, her husband doesn’t feel any better.

“He’s in bed now feeling sorry for himself,” she said. “I don’t even know what to say to him. I get that he’s upset, but it felt like he made it all about him — turned a wake into some drama about childhood trauma.”

The woman admitted that she’s “livid” but conceded she felt “sorry for him in some ways,” while insisting that a funeral was not the place to sort out his issues. 

“It was a funeral. Not the time. I don’t even want to show my face around his family now,” she wrote.

Responses to the post claimed that it was the wife who was in the wrong.

“He’s lost his dad with whom he had a difficult relationship, I think it’s pretty understandable that he’d fall apart at some point. Shame he did it then, but not unusual I’m sure. I don’t think you being livid helps anything,” one person wrote.

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Others also stressed that dying doesn’t absolve all sins and how her husband could’ve triggered her. She was also faulted for centering herself as her husband grappled with his loss.

“It’s not really about you and your feelings at the moment. As harsh as that might feel, because it’s understandable that it wasn’t pleasant for you or anyone else to deal with, it’s part of his grieving process,” one user commented. “Let it go and be kind to him, he might need to talk about it more before he can move on, and he might need you to help him with that.”