Choosing a baby’s name is often a meaningful and carefully considered decision for new parents. 

While suggestions from family members are common, most parents expect their chosen name to be respected once it’s official. 

One couple, however, is facing repeated resistance from the baby’s grandmother, who continues to call the child by a name that was never agreed upon — one closely tied to her own.

“Within 10 minutes of finding out I was pregnant with a girl, my MIL told me we should name the baby after her,” a user wrote in a Reddit post. “We obviously didn’t do that.”

However, four days after the baby was born, the grandmother started using a different name for the newborn — a hybrid of her own name and the one chosen by the parents. 

“I corrected her on the spot,” the mother explained. Unfortunately, the corrections didn’t stop the behavior. “She did it several more times, and each time we corrected her and asked that she use the baby’s given name or a shortened version of it.”

After what the poster estimates was the fifth or sixth instance, she and her partner decided to take a firmer stance. “We confronted her very firmly and told her she will use the given name or the shortened nickname, and nothing else.”

The grandmother’s response was emotionally charged. “She said we refuse to let her have any joy,” the post reads. “Apparently the only thing that brings her joy is renaming our baby.” 

The grandmother then “reluctantly agreed to follow our rules and use the name or shortened nickname we chose.” But her promise was short-lived.

During a recent interaction, the grandmother “used another slightly shorter version of the combo name from before.”

“I doubted myself in the moment and wanted to convince myself I misheard, so I didn’t confront her this time,” the new mom explained.

However, now she is “back on alert.”

“Next time it happens (because of course there will be a next time), we will have to have yet another confrontation,” she wrote.

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The comment section was in full support for the Reddit user. “Why is she incapable of feeling joy unless she gets to rename someone else’s baby? Thats a bizarre problem to have,” one user wrote. 

“You’ve told her time and time again what the name is, and she still insists on calling baby another name,” someone else commented. “At this point, it is time for consequences.”

The parents emphasized they are not opposed to typical affectionate nicknames like “sweetheart,” “sugar,” or “peanut.” However, their frustration stems specifically from the use of variations that resemble the grandmother’s name. 

“Not renaming the baby shouldn’t be a boundary that even has to be articulated,” the mother wrote. The ongoing conflict has left the family feeling strained. “We’re getting very close to going low contact.”

A man turns to Reddit for support after a heated disagreement with his ex over how their children should spend Father’s Day. 

He shares in his post that he and his ex, who were never married, share 50-50 custody of their two kids, ages 11 and 9, and that their arrangement has always been clear: “My ex always got Mother’s Day while I always got Father’s Day. That’s written into our court order and this has never been challenged before.”

Four years ago, his ex married a man named Nick, and the blended family has since grown with a child together and another on the way.

Now, the man explains that his “ex and Nick want the kids to be with them on Father’s Day and to celebrate the day with Nick specifically.”

He points out that the occasion is being turned into a larger gathering, as his “ex’s whole family and Nick’s whole family are getting together and they’re turning it into a family day.”

His ex argues that this makes it even more important for the kids to be there, but she also has another motive. “She has also stated she feels as though they mistreat Nick and this would be my way of saying it needs to stop,” he writes.

The reason for this tension, he explains, is that “the kids don’t like him and on family trees or family drawings they never included him.”

He reveals that his children “don’t call to wish [Nick] a Happy Father’s Day and they choose to ask me to do fatherly events with them instead of Nick, including on my ex’s time.”

However, he notes that this isn’t a one-sided issue, adding, “This also happens when a motherly event comes up and I have the kids. They ask their mom to go.”

The relationship between the man and Nick is strained, with accusations of jealousy fueling the conflict. “Nick and I have some tension because he gets jealous when the kids’ attention is on me when we all show up to support the kids,” the poster explains.

Nick, however, feels he does “an equal amount of dad work to me so he should be equally loved and appreciated.”

The situation has escalated, with Nick lashing out multiple times. “Five times now he has accused me of hogging the kids,” the man shares. Nick has also “wrongly accused me of several things from removing him from the emergency contact list at school… to saying I demanded the kids be returned to me when my ex worked late by a couple of hours and the kids were with him.”

The children themselves have voiced their discomfort with Nick. “My kids say he’s grumpy and bossy and that he doesn’t like me. They picked up on it years ago,” the father writes.

Concerned for their well-being, he put them in therapy, but even that step led to more conflict. “When all three adults (me, ex and her husband) met with one of the therapists to discuss things, it worsened things between Nick and myself,” he explains.

As Father’s Day approaches, the man’s ex is relentless in her requests to swap the holiday. “Ex has used our co-parenting app to really push this Father’s Day swap and she is not accepting no for an answer,” he says, noting, “I get notifications up to 10 times a day as we get closer to Father’s Day.”

The father is clear about his own feelings and those of his children. “My kids don’t want to go. I don’t want to miss Father’s Day with them or cancel our plans,” he explains. He also reflects on his own role in the situation, saying, “I know I don’t exactly encourage them to like Nick. I never discourage it either, but I have let them feel how they feel.”

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Still, he acknowledges the potential benefits of the children spending time with their mom’s side of the family, admitting, “I know this is a chance for them to spend time with their mom’s side who they don’t see that often.”

Regardless, he remains conflicted, turning to Reddit for advice.